February 17, 2012
I let nearly the entire day go by yesterday without even thinking about what act of love to do. I don’t blame me—Wednesday marked a kind of end to a big project I’ve been doing for work. So yesterday I just wanted to relax.
At any rate, when midnight came a knockin’, I had no clue what loving act to do. Sleep wasn’t an option. Skipping a day wasn’t an option. Doing an act of love for you before the day’s end was the only option. After mulling over some ideas for about an hour, I decided to film myself telling you I love you and wishing you a good day. In order to preempt jealousy in the ranks, I made a similar video for our daughters. Both videos are in an obvious place on our desktop, so I’m sure you’ll stumble across them.
January 11, 2012
After we put the girls to bed last night, I popped some popcorn and threw our wedding video into the DVD player. When we were about to start watching it, we heard our girls talking upstairs in their beds. We agreed that, though it might be fun to snuggle up together alone while watching our wedding video, it might be just as fun (more fun?) to show the video to our girls. So we called them down and enjoyed it as a family.
While watching the video, you kept smiling at me while holding and rubbing my hand. Afterwards, when the girls were in bed, you hugged me and told me you’re glad you married me. For a while, you wouldn’t let go of me and kept repeating what you said. I’m so glad I married you too.
I said I would maybe talk more about Keller’s book, so here’s a great quote from it:
Our culture says that feelings of love are the basis for actions of love. And of course that can be true. But it is truer to say that actions of love can lead consistently to feelings of love. Love between two people must not, in the end, be identified simply with emotion or merely with dutiful action. Married love is a symbiotic, complex mixture of both. Having said this, it is important to observe that of the two—emotion and action—it is the latter that we have the most control over. It is the action of love that we can promise to maintain every day (103).