Day 284: Weekly Prayer

July 23, 2012

I read and prayed through chapter 3 of The Power of a Praying Husband for act 284, which was about praying for one’s wife’s emotional well-being and for understanding when it comes to her emotions.

Although you seem emotionally healthy, I have to say that many times I really don’t know how to respond when you react emotionally to things. I think I’ve tended to downplay those responses, as if you were overreacting or something. But Omartian gave me some good advice regarding how to prepare for those situations:

The best way to approach the matter of your wife’s emotions is to ask God to give you insight into what your wife is feeling and show you how to pray accordingly.

Amen to that.

 

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Day 270: Weekly Prayer

July 6, 2012

For Sunday’s act of love (6/24), I read through the first chapter of The Power of a Praying Husband. The focus was on becoming the right kind of husband, one who is (among other things) of one mind with his wife, compassionate, loving, tenderhearted, and courteous.

The first is not something a husband has complete control over. Like the tango, being of one mind takes two. However, I can do my part to help us become of one mind: I can pray for that end, that there would be no division or quarrels in our marriage, but that we would continue to share the same purpose of devoting our lives to glorifying God and making him known.

The latter four struck me hard because I need a lot of work in each of those areas. As an example, here are a couple of questions she asked:

Do you ever talk to your wife in a way that would be considered rude if you were speaking to a friend or business associate? Are you kind to everyone all day at work, but then you take out your frustration, exhaustion, and anger on your wife when you get home?

I answered yes to each of them. Although my behavior toward you isn’t characterized by rudeness and I don’t often take out my frustration etc. on you when I get home from work, I still recognize these tendencies in me. May the God of all peace make me a peacemaker rather than a divider in our marriage.

I pray that there would be peace in our marriage and unity, and that we’d be of the same mind and judgment. May I be tenderhearted toward you and   compassionate, loving, and courteous. May I live with you in an understanding way. Praise God that we worship the same God and desire to live under his authority.


Day 264: Continuing My Education

June 25, 2012

For this act of love, I read the foreword and introduction to Stormie Omartian’s The Power of a Praying Husband since I’ll be using this book as a source for my prayers for our marriage.


Day 263: Weekly Prayer

June 23, 2012

On Sunday, I again prayed for our marriage and again struggled to come up with content for my prayer. Some readers suggested that I should work through Stormie Omartian’s The Power of a Praying Husband. I’m going to do that. I didn’t use it for this prayer session because the book was suggested to me after the session was already over.

 


Day 256: Prayer

June 18, 2012

I prayed for our marriage again. I’ve actually found it really difficult to come up with content for my prayers. I think I need to find a book on praying for your marriage from the Scriptures . . .


Day 249: Weekly Prayer

June 7, 2012

For Sunday’s act of love, I prayed for our marriage for fifteen minutes per my weekly custom. For most of that time, I prayed something that I’ve continually prayed throughout 365 Acts of Love: that God would turn our hearts toward him and each other.


Day 243: Weekly Prayer

May 31, 2012

This is the third week that I’ve done a special prayer session for our marriage since I committed to praying for our marriage. May God work through these prayers to bring mighty changes to our marriage for his glory.


Day 235: Special Prayer Session #2

May 24, 2012

For my 235th act of love, I completed my second special session of prayer. I decided that I’ll make these once-a-week sessions 15 minutes long. That’s it–just 15 minutes per week dedicated to praying for our marriage. At least it’s a start. And at least it’s consistent.

In my prayer, I first thought of qualities of yours that I really appreciate, using Proverbs 31:10-31 as a guide, then I thanked God for you and for instilling those qualities in you. Then I prayed through Ephesians 5:25-33, asking God to make me the kind of husband who’d be willing to sacrifice his life for his wife (i.e., you!) and the kind of husband who sacrifices himself on a daily basis for the purpose of his wife’s success. I’d say this was a good start to my new tradition.


Day 230: Commitment to Prayer

May 22, 2012

Consistent prayer for our marriage is one of the most important things I can do to change our marriage for the better. And such change is the purpose of 365 Acts of Love. Accordingly, it’s very curious that I don’t consistently pray for our marriage.

To remedy this, I’m committing to having a special session of prayer for our marriage once a week, which sessions will serve as acts of love for the blog. I’ll keep this up at least until 365 is finished. Having said that, I intend to pray for our marriage every day, but the special sessions will be once a week.

For this week’s prayer session, I prayed (among other things) that God would make you well. You apparently caught my sickness.

 


Day 216: Praying with You #2

May 4, 2012

For the second time, I asked you what issue in our marriage we should pray about. You said we should pray that we’d not be so busy that we can’t spend quality time together.

Good call. We keep a busy schedule. Part of that is inevitable due to our station in life. But praying that we’d not be so busy is just the beginning. We should also be intentional about setting time aside for each other. That might require cutting things out of our schedule. But what could we cut? I’m glad I asked.

I could cut back on work. But it’s hard enough for me to keep up as it is, so I don’t think that’s an option.

I could stop doing 365 Acts of Love. That would certainly help. This project consumes so much time, time that I could be hanging out with you or making money or becoming better at my job or sleeping or whatever. It also consumes energy, especially mental energy. It takes so much from me.

However, it’s one of the most important projects I’ve ever committed to. On my view (and yours, I believe–though you’re largely in the dark about how much time I spend on it), 365′s worth the time, energy, labor, thought, tears, pain, blood (JK!), etc. that it takes. In the long run, 365 might just be the thing God uses to make our marriage last. Sans 365, our marriage might have failed eventually, leaving a heap of sorrow and broken lives in its wake. With 365, our marriage just might (by God’s grace) last and 365 just might transform our lives and the lives of many others. It seems that important. So I don’t think cutting it out is an option.

And consider the fact that 365 is a vehicle through which I make time for us. Because of it, I’ve given this issue a bunch of thought and I’ve come up with acts of love that have allowed us to spend time together. I think, then, that it actually helps with this issue.

But there’s another option for spending time together, without cutting anything from our schedule. We can hang out in the evenings. When we put our youngest to bed early, we end up with a few hours alone together, even if we’re cleaning or doing some other duty or collapsed on the couch. Let’s make the evenings our own.

Thanks for making me aware of this issue and asking that we bring it to our God in prayer.