Day 252: Reading _The Meaning of Marriage_ Together

June 13, 2012

Earlier this year, I read Timothy Keller’s The Meaning of Marriage for one of my acts of love. Recently, our church started a kind of marriage seminar based on that book. We joined it. I read half of the first chapter to you for my 252nd act of love in preparation for the first session of that seminar.

In that passage, Keller gave some statistics on marriage. As is commonly known, divorce rates have been steadily increasing for years. But another fact about marriage is maybe less commonly known: in general, people who get married and stay married are happier with their lives than people who stay single or get divorced.

I’ve found that my married life is more satisfying than my single life was. The former’s tough, though. Maybe even tougher than the latter. (Perhaps I’ve forgotten just how tough it is to be single.) Still, marriage can be a great source of joy, part of which comes by perseverance through its hardships. If only people would endure through marital hardships (though some marriages shouldn’t be endured), they might find a tighter unity with their spouse and a deeper satisfaction with their marriage once the hardships pass.



Day 112: Character and Hope

January 19, 2012

The other day, you left a note for me in the medicine cabinet. Thanks! It said, “Good morning, starshine! The earth says, ‘hello!’ We love you!” Since you gave me that note, I’ve been thinking about our date to see Charlie and the Chocolate Factory during our first year of marriage (and how, for good or ill, that line’s been stuck with us ever since). Remember we just got Tobey, so we brought him with us? Then Matt nearly ran him over?

Things were simpler back then. But I wouldn’t trade the love we’ve developed for each other through time and trial for the simple, feelings-based love we had then. Certainly, there are feelings now! But they flow out of an enduring character. And certainly, it wasn’t all based on feelings then, but a strengthening commitment.

Anyway, for act 112, I wrote you this note:

Thanks for the note you left me in the bathroom. It made my week! I know things have been difficult lately and I think they’ll grow more difficult. But our great God directs our steps and does nothing in vain. And, we know that when we persevere through difficult times, it develops our character, and out of that character, hope springs (Rom. 5:3-4). Let’s allow our difficulties outside our home to bring unity inside our home, as we develop a stable and enduring love for each other.

I love you, Francine.