November 1, 2012
For this act of love, I had someone watch our kids while we went on a bike ride together. Oh what fun we had! We only rode around for about 30 minutes, but it was great just being out with you and acting goofy with you and looking at houses in the nearby neighborhoods.
You had just finished running, which was not ideal because you weren’t exactly in the mood for a bike ride (you got into it, though). But that was the time that worked out for our schedules and the babysitter’s schedule. If you keep up the run/bike combo, though, maybe you can enter a biathlon. 😉 Also, we had some sparkling cider that I wanted to use. My plan was that we’d bike to the beach, then drink our cider. But we didn’t have enough time.
Anyway, we still loved our bike ride. We really need to get out together without the kids on a regular basis. It’s so good for our relationship.
August 18, 2012
On Monday, after all the chaos of the preceding 24 hours, I gave you my full attention for 15 minutes while I listened to you talk. But I didn’t tell you that I was doing this. I simply asked you to tell me how you were feeling. You didn’t need coaxing, but really let loose, which was a change from day 41.
You spilled your guts about our experience in the ER and at the dentist, how you were feeling, how you felt bad for our daughter, how we both learned much from her calm reaction to the situation, how you were glad we had doctors we could trust and good insurance, how you weren’t sure how to deal with our daughter’s change of appearance, how you weren’t sure how she would deal with it, how you were concerned about the way other kids would react to her, etc., etc., etc. An hour later I think you said all you needed to say. I didn’t say two sentences the entire time. Neither did my mind wander. You had my complete attention.
I’m happy that I served as a listening ear. I’m happy that we got through our daughter’s emergency together.
July 31, 2012
On the evening of 7/14, you were feeling exhausted because the girls were insane enthusiastic about life the entire day. I asked you what you needed in order to recuperate and you said that you could use some time alone. So, I mucked around downstairs while you went upstairs for the evening and read a Nancy Drew novel (your favorite). I wanted to hang out with you, but it was better for you that you got to be alone.
July 10, 2012
I made dinner for us on Friday. When it came time to eat, the kids were playing upstairs in their room and I decided to let them stay there so we could eat dinner together alone. After we ate, I called them down so they could eat.
This act wasn’t extravagant, but I enjoyed it very much. It’s so great to spend time with you.
July 2, 2012
On Saturday I planned on going to bed early because I was tired and had to get up early for work the next day. When I told you I was going to bed, you asked me to stay up with you so we could snuggle on the couch together while we watched a show on the computer. That didn’t sound like fun to me, but I did it anyway because I love you. While my intentions were good, I fell asleep not five minutes into the show.
May 13, 2012
For the second night in a row, I suggested that we forego cleaning and hang out together instead. You were again on board with my suggestion. It was great hanging out with you, but our messy house is starting to bother me. It’s so tough to keep things balanced.
May 13, 2012
On day 216, we prayed, per your suggestion, that we would have more time to spend alone together. I’m more of a task person than a people person, so it’s not surprising to me that you feel like we don’t take much time just to enjoy each other. Well, I took your prayer request to heart and made some time for us on Tuesday night.
That night, the dishes were piled up from dinner, the living room had toys strewn about, and our pile of laundry might’ve rivaled Mt. Everest. My inclination, after we put the girls to bed, was to get those things done, then to go to bed. But I remembered what we prayed for the other night and I asked you, “What if we just spend some time relaxing together tonight and we’ll clean tomorrow?”
So, we watched some episodes of “Frasier” as we snuggled on the couch. You later commented to me that you really enjoyed our time together. I enjoyed it, too. To be honest, though, my idea of quality time is not watching TV together.