September 24, 2012
The other day when I was in Costco by myself, my cashier asked me about you. “Is that woman that you come in with your wife?” she asked. “Yes,” I said. “She is SOOOO gorgeous!” she replied. Naturally, I told you about her comment as soon as I got home because I’ve been trying to convince you since I met you that you’re stunningly beautiful.
For this week’s prayer session, I read and prayed through the chapter in The Power of a Praying Husband on beauty. I prayed that you would always know that I think you’re beautiful. I married you (partly) because you’re beautiful and I still think you’re outrageously, fantastically beautiful.
September 21, 2012
Yesterday I was really enjoying the mango I was eating over the sink, so I said to you, “If I ever get stranded on an island, I really want it to have mangoes.” You chuckled, then came up behind me and hugged me around the waist. “If I ever get stranded on an island, I really want it to have you,” you said. In response, I turned around, hugged you, looked deep into your eyes, and said, “If I ever get stranded on an island, I really want it to have fish too. You know how important protein is to a healthy diet.” You laughed. “Just kidding. I would definitely want you there too.”
September 19, 2012
This might lead to our demise, but we like to snack on chocolate chips. We’ll buy a bag of them, not for cookies or muffins, but simply to munch on.
On Saturday night, after you went to bed, I put out a handful of chocolate chips for you down the stairs along with a note that said: “Some sweets for my sweetie.” I expected you to find your surprise the next morning when I was at work.
I’m just not sure how well I thought this plan through. For one, you probably wouldn’t have wanted chocolate chips for breakfast, although you might’ve used them in something that you ate or saved them for later. For another, I didn’t think of the fact that our two older kids might find the chocolate before you.
When you called our kids to you in the morning in order to get them ready for the day, you were surprised to see that they had chocolate all over their faces. “Where did you get chocolate?” you asked. “We ate the chocolate chips dad left for us,” they said. You were pretty confused about that. You didn’t see the note, so it was only later when you talked to me that I was able to clear things up.
September 19, 2012
For this act of love, I took you and the girls on a date to the drive-in theater to watch Madagascar 3. (It was free that night. Shhh! Don’t tell my dates.) The girls went in the bounce house, we had great popcorn, and saw tons of people we know (I guess our friends are cheap know how to take advantage of a good deal too). We had a super fun time and even enjoyed the film.
September 19, 2012
You have a lot of relationships in your life that you need to foster—your relationship with me, God, our children, our church, your friends, and your family and mine. Some of these relationships have priority over others and maintaining that proper balance can be tough!
For act 329, I read and prayed through the chapter on priorities in The Power of a Praying Husband. Omartian talked about the importance of living a balanced life, giving appropriate attention to your relationships, your spiritual life, your responsibilities, yourself, etc. I prayed that you would be able maintain a good balance in your life, but I focused on praying that you would maintain a good balance in and give appropriate priority to the various relationships in your life.
I prayed that you would give your relationship with God priority over every other relationship. I prayed that you would put me next and the kids after that. From there, I prayed that you would have time to foster good relationships with other people in your life. I can help with that by providing opportunities for you to be with others.
I think you do a great job in this area. I pray that you would grow even more.
September 16, 2012
For my 328th act of love, I strapped on my manly Iron Man apron gunk shield and baked you a lovely blueberry pie.
I don’t know if I’m supposed to say this about my own pie, but it was amazing! The crust was all flaky (I let Trader Joe’s do all the work on that one—next time I’m makin’ my own) and the blueberries were sweet and gooey.
September 12, 2012
On day 327, I had the day off so we did errands together as a family. When we got into the car, I told you that I wanted to hold hands with you wherever we went. You were thrilled.
We held hands as much as we could, but had to stop a few times to constrain the wild ones. I think this act made you feel really special because you seemed a little twitterpated, like Bambi with Faline.
September 12, 2012
I’ve also been convicted, because of that men’s conference, that we don’t pray or read our Bibles together consistently. We do it individually, but still. So, for act 326, I committed to doing devotions with you every night. As an incentive, I promised to give you a back massage every time we did devotions for seven days in a row.
Guess what? We haven’t followed through. Too bad. We’ll do it tonight. I promise. I don’t know why it’s so hard to be consistent.
September 12, 2012
Lately, I’ve been convicted. Very convicted. I’m supposed to be taking the lead with our family by, for one thing, teaching our kids about God. But I haven’t been systematic about doing this. At best, I’ve taught them some stuff here or there during teachable moments and I’ve read them some stuff from their children’s Bible.
When I went to that men’s conference, I decided that I needed to make some changes in this area. For my 325th act of love, then, I committed to reading the Bible and praying with our family every day. To ensure that we would be consistent, I promised our kids that every time we had family devotions for seven days in a row, they would get a prize.
We’ve been consistent ever since I made my commitment. For our first prize, we got frozen yogurt at Pinkberry. The prizes won’t be that cool every time, but I wanted to kick things off right.
September 8, 2012
For this act of love, I tried to take you out on a bike ride. I even found someone to watch our kids. But alas, something came up and we had to postpone the ride. Instead I read a chapter from Every Man’s Battle on cherishing one’s wife.
The book is about sexual purity and the chapter that I read was an exhortation for men to find sexual gratification only in their wives. At one point, the authors remind their readers that wives have given up much to be with their husbands and husbands must honor that sacrifice:
Your wife gave up her freedom for you. She relinquished her rights to seek happiness elsewhere. She exchanged this freedom for something she considered more valuable: your love and your word. Her dreams are tied up in you, dreams of sharing communication and oneness.
You gave up much to be with me. I promised to commit myself to you. I need to honor that by being sexually faithful to you with my eyes, my mind, and my heart. I promise to cherish you. Let Solomon’s song be my song:
How beautiful you are, my darling, Oh, how beautiful! Your eyes behind your veil are doves . . . Your lips are like a scarlet ribbon, your mouth is lovely . . . All beautiful you are, my darling; there is no flaw in you . . . You have stolen my heart, my bride; you have stolen my heart with one glance of your eyes . . . How delightful is your love, my bride! . . . Your head crowns you like Mount Carmel. Your hair is like royal tapestry; the king is held captive by its tresses. How beautiful you are and how pleasing, O love, with your delights (Song of Songs 4:1,3,7,9-10; 7:5-6).