August 24, 2012
On Thursday (8/2) when I came home from work, I was tired beyond belief. I wanted to rest, but knew that there was no way to do that while the kids were up and I knew that I couldn’t do it when they went to bed because the house needed to be cleaned.
“This is ridiculous!” I thought. “There must be some time during a given day that I can just relax.” After thinking through some possibilities, I came up with a plan. I decided that we should have daddy and mommy breaks in which we take turns taking evenings off. I proposed it to you and you loved the plan. “Why don’t you take the first evening off?” I asked. “At the kids’ bedtime, I’ll put them to sleep and you can do whatever you want for the rest of the evening. I’ll even clean the house. Tomorrow night, I’ll take my break.” “That sounds good,” you replied.
Around 8, I realized just how tired I was. “What if I take tonight and you take tomorrow?” I asked. “Sure,” you said. With that, I lay on the couch, fell asleep, and didn’t get up until the morning. It was great!
My act of love was giving you your break the next day, so technically, I did 309 on Friday. I hope we can do these daddy/mommy breaks frequently.
August 24, 2012
Chapter 6 of The Power of a Praying Husband concerned praying for and fostering a good marriage. Omartian talked about the importance of love, fidelity, respect, quality time, and communication for a marriage. It was encouraging to read this chapter, because I’ve grown and placed more importance in each of these areas over the course of the last year. I prayed that God would continue to grow me in each of these areas and that he would help us build a great marriage.
Here’s something related. At the beginning of 365 Acts of Love, we had an informal counseling session with a couple in our church in order to talk through some issues in our marriage. During that session, I mentioned that our marriage was about average, thinking that the other couple would be okay with that. They weren’t. They encouraged me to strive for an excellent marriage, one that would serve as an example to many.
That really hit me. Why would I think that having an average marriage is acceptable? I think it’s because I knew that a great marriage takes work and I wanted to focus my energies on other things that I considered more gratifying, like work and exercise. Now that I’ve focused on building an excellent marriage, an excellent relationship with you, pleasing you brings me gratification (though I still really enjoy exercise and my job).