For several weeks, I’ve been reading about marriage for one of my acts of love each week. This has really helped me to go deeper in my understanding of marriage.
This time, I read an article about listening and communicating from Focus on the Family. I really want to become a better listener because conversations like this are commonplace in our marriage:
YOU: Okay, I’m leaving for my meeting. The kids are all yours.
ME: What? You have a meeting tonight? Why didn’t you tell me? I have lots of work to do.
YOU: We talked about it on Tuesday night. You said you would watch the kids.
ME: No, I didn’t. I would remember agreeing to something like that.
YOU: Well . . . you said you would do it.
ME: Fine. Go to your meeting. But I do not remember agreeing to this.
As much as I hate to admit it, I think the problem lies with me. How could you distinctly remember that I agreed to watch the kids if I didn’t actually do it? I think that I zone out when you talk to me and I’m really not sure how to change that. But I’ll start by trying to be more conscientious about listening to you when you talk.