For the second time, I asked you what issue in our marriage we should pray about. You said we should pray that we’d not be so busy that we can’t spend quality time together.
Good call. We keep a busy schedule. Part of that is inevitable due to our station in life. But praying that we’d not be so busy is just the beginning. We should also be intentional about setting time aside for each other. That might require cutting things out of our schedule. But what could we cut? I’m glad I asked.
I could cut back on work. But it’s hard enough for me to keep up as it is, so I don’t think that’s an option.
I could stop doing 365 Acts of Love. That would certainly help. This project consumes so much time, time that I could be hanging out with you or making money or becoming better at my job or sleeping or whatever. It also consumes energy, especially mental energy. It takes so much from me.
However, it’s one of the most important projects I’ve ever committed to. On my view (and yours, I believe–though you’re largely in the dark about how much time I spend on it), 365′s worth the time, energy, labor, thought, tears, pain, blood (JK!), etc. that it takes. In the long run, 365 might just be the thing God uses to make our marriage last. Sans 365, our marriage might have failed eventually, leaving a heap of sorrow and broken lives in its wake. With 365, our marriage just might (by God’s grace) last and 365 just might transform our lives and the lives of many others. It seems that important. So I don’t think cutting it out is an option.
And consider the fact that 365 is a vehicle through which I make time for us. Because of it, I’ve given this issue a bunch of thought and I’ve come up with acts of love that have allowed us to spend time together. I think, then, that it actually helps with this issue.
But there’s another option for spending time together, without cutting anything from our schedule. We can hang out in the evenings. When we put our youngest to bed early, we end up with a few hours alone together, even if we’re cleaning or doing some other duty or collapsed on the couch. Let’s make the evenings our own.
Thanks for making me aware of this issue and asking that we bring it to our God in prayer.