February 28, 2012
Monday, as I reflected on what needs of yours to fulfill, I realized that I’d been harsh with you lately regarding a certain issue. It’s in my nature to be forthright, especially with people that I know well. But that forthrightness sometimes manifests itself as harsh and offensive speech. That’s exactly what happened here. So, for my act of love, I apologized to you and asked for your forgiveness.
February 28, 2012
I actually forgot to commit an act for you on Sunday. So I committed my 151st act of love on Monday morning.
A few days ago, we were watching something on our laptop when you told me that I never tell you you’re pretty. (“Never” in your language means “not often.” We would’ve fought much less over the years had I learned that as a newlywed.) This really irritated me, though I don’t think I showed it. I began to think of all that I do for you through 365* and was even tempted to show you the blog. Then, I calmed down and said, “I think I tell you you’re pretty quite a bit, but I’ll work on saying it more.” You then said that in addition to not often telling you that you’re pretty, I’m not specific enough when I do. You said I should mention what features of yours I think are pretty.*
After thinking over your comment some more, I realized you were right: I don’t often tell you you’re pretty and I don’t make my compliments about your beauty specific. So on Monday, I wrote “You’re beautiful” (and some variations of that) on 10 different notecards and placed them in various spots around the house. The trouble is, I forgot to follow your advice about being specific. You noticed. I’ll try to work on that, honey dear.
Thanks for voicing your criticism. Though I didn’t like hearing it at first, it’s good to know what I can do to improve. Also, it’s good that you’re open enough with me that you can tell me what it is about me or the way I act that’s bothering you.
*This was one of the dangers of 365 that I mentioned in an earlier post. I want 365 to be a free gift to you rather than leverage for me.
*Your comments weren’t out of the blue, but quite called for given the context of our conversation, which I didn’t reproduce here.