Last night, you told me this (unprompted by me):
“I feel like we’re friends again. Happy friends. Not just roommates . . . It’s clear you’ve been thinking about me during the day. Like how you gave me that coffee card . . .You’ve been so romantic lately. That’s exactly what I’ve wanted from you this entire time. That’s exactly what I’ve been talking about” (see “My Resolution” and day 42).
Wow! I guess I’ve accomplished what I set out to do with 365 Acts of Love, so I’m done with it. Maybe I’ll take up sailing . . . Just kidding (as you clearly know since you’re reading the finished project). I’m glad we’re seeing good changes in our marriage as a result of 365. I’ll keep working hard daily and praying that God continues to change our hearts.
By the way, yesterday we went out for a walk to our favorite coffee house and guess what you bought with your coffee card? A dark chocolate mocha!
By the bye, yesterday was the end of my week of cleaning the living room. Can you say ‘epic failure’? I probably cleaned it four of the seven days and you did the rest. This failure reminds me of day 28 when I gave you that coupon. You’re free to redeem that any time, you know. From here on out, there will be no more promissory notes, just accomplished acts.
You’ve inspired me to try this same thing. My husband and I have been struggling to really connect since our daughter was born a year ago. Thank you do much for this blog!
You mean, you want to do an act of love for your husband every day for a year? That’d be awesome! Will you blog about it?
Even if your primary purpose is to record this for your wife, I’m glad you’re doing so. It’s been inspirational to me as well. My marriage is in a really tough place due to a sustained six years of selfishness on my part. I hope that in 77 days that I’m hearing the same thing from my wife, as she notices the changes that God is making in my life.
Thanks for telling me this. I’m glad that this blog’s having a positive affect on your marriage!
Selfishness is death for a marriage. I’ve been selfish too in my marriage (and still am to a degree) and it has bad consequences.
[…] At one point, I said my acts of love would consist only in accomplished acts, not promises to commit acts. I made that decision because of my failure to fulfill the clean-the-living-room-for-a-week act and because you haven’t cashed in those coupons for household chores. After some consideration, I’ve decided to give the coupon thing another shot. […]